Life is too short to do something good for others..

How easy and simple it would have been if you would have been getting things before you even say or what if you would have asked and you would have given it.
We people ask for things, materials....have we ever asked for someone else life.... i think we hardly do that. we are so much occupied in the monotony of our lives that we don't see the other person's suffering. Looking at the person and staring him/her and showing petty is not at all good. They even deserves a beautiful life like us. Somehow they are not able to do that but and by giving such reactions we make them suffer more and more.
God doesn't give everybody everything but whatever he gives to us, do we actually utilize that............NO and we just go on asking for more and more. How can man be so unkind....?????
We see our sufferings and our bad conditions and we tend to neglect the other person.
I know the world is not a wish granting factory but do we really wish for someone else who is a total stranger to us. No, we rarely do....... Is this is how we are supposed to move on..... remembering someone in your prayers and praying for the health and improving conditions of others will not take away anything from us..
This life is too short to do good deeds... you never know when it comes on you and you are in the same condition of asking for people to pray for you.It's not a give and take game like people generally think... he didn't do for me so i will not. Get out of this thought that this world is mean, when you see positivism you tend to forget the negative of a person.
We should see happiness in small things,of course materialistic things can make you happy but what is the use if the people you want to be with are not there with you.

There is a picture attached in the post which talks about that we need to clear off our minds in order to think something good for somebody rlse.

A new beginning !..

We’re all evolving... This is just the beginning..

Each moment is a new beginning. There’s no need to live in the future, because future is merely a concept in your head.

When it arrives, it will arrive as the present moment. If you’re not here and now, you’ll miss it. You’ll keep dreaming of a better future, which never really comes as it is uncertain.

The message I want to give you is that whatever is there is - NOW.

We all have challenges in our life, but it’s okay. Say yes to life. Accept what’s here and now. Trust life, even if it doesn’t look the way you want it to.

The problem isn’t life, but your expectations of it.

Everything in the outside world will sooner or later dissolve, but who you are deep down is eternal. When you can tap into who you really are, your life will change.

Live your present as if there is no tomorrow !!..... Life is a gift...Live it up........

Are you ready ?

Why practice happiness??

Why Practice Happiness?

In addition to making us feel good, studies have found that happiness actually improves other aspects of our lives. Here is an overview of some of the good stuff that research has linked to happiness.

• Happiness is good for our health: Happy people are less likely to get sick, and they live longer.
• Happiness is good for our relationships: Happy people are more likely to get married and have fulfilling marriages, and they have more friends.
• Happy people make more money and are more productive at work.
• Happy people are more generous.
• Happy people cope better with stress and trauma.
• Happy people are more creative and are better able to see the big picture.

A DAY! YOUR OWN DAY!

A DAY is a 24hour time span you spend doing a lot of activities,  meeting people,working, practicing, eating, resting, rejuvenating!  No two days have ever been a copy of one another, every day is a new experience all together..experiences that set a benchmark of your life. Ther would be happiest day of your life, there would be saddest day of your life, there would even be a luckiest day of your life. Ever realised, you possibly meet the same people at work everyday, live with same people everyday, interact with them but their intensities are different with you, their compatability, thier feelings, their thoughts and movements are different with you everyday. Ever wondered why?? Because even they are having their OWN DAY. Sometimes its the day you face and not the people!! Strange and twisted..!!

You are your own problem solver

what are problems?

Something created out of misunderstanding,dissatisfaction,non fulfillment of expectations,failure in achieving goals in life,Peer pressure.family issue,relationship issues,Job dissatisfaction,Feeling of loneliness e.t.c.

One must understand a simple thing the problem that has been created by you,suffered by you,faced by you how can some one else lava the right solution for it.No matter who advice you,what they advice you at the end you turn back to yourself asking is that truly the right solution to my problem?

It is very easy for others to advice; they are not the bearers of the sufferings and circumstances.

Have faith in your decision making capability.Trust yourself that yes i know what the problem is ,I know that what action has to be taken towards resolving the problem,i know my resolution is fit and best for me.

I am not saying that do not listen to what others have to advice for the problem.Be a good 

listener.Evaluate ,calculate the possibilities of solutions and finally after the considerations start with the course of action required for solving the problem.

Others would be sympathetic towards your problem;but the reality is when a person faces hurdles or problem its empathy that they have an urge for and not sympathy.

You are your own problem solver no one knows you more than you :your own self.You are the secret possessor of the your strength,weakness your capabilities your fears. You know best what is right or wrong for you.A wise solution is achieved only after the evaluation of these aspects.

 # There is an image attached to the post stating that If you are solving someone else's problem,you are constantly stabbing in the dark.but when you solve you own problem the light come on

What is missing in your life ?..

Why aren't you happy ?

Happiness is a state of mind. This is a statement that you have probably heard thousands of times. The problem is how do you achieve that state?

You have everything that is termed as great and wonderful: a fantastic career, a beautiful house, a supportive spouse, loving children, and everything else that is supposed to be necessary for happiness in this world.

Than why do you keep asking the same question? Why am I not happy? Why am I depressed? What is it that is missing in my life? Try as I may, I am just not happy with myself. Why? Why are you still struggling with an answer to these important questions?

1.The need for introspection

2.Past trauma

3.Betrayals

4.Jealousy can make you unhappy

5.Drifting aimlessly

6.Not being able to achieve your goals

How to be happy

Introspection is the best way to do this. For many people, meditation, especially mindfulness meditation, seems to be the key that allows them to look inward and understand the causes of their unhappiness.

Of course, never forget to keep in touch with people who love you for who you are and can be the major sources of your happiness. Activities such as writing, painting, or photography, or anything that attracts you can keep you in touch with your inner self as well as be major outlets for the expression of your inner pain.

The video gives you an overview regarding how you could end your sufferings..

10 ways to be happier!!

1. Don’t start with profundities. When I began my Happiness Project, I realized pretty quickly that, rather than jumping in with lengthy daily meditation or answering deep questions of self-identity, I should start with the basics, like going to sleep at a decent hour and not letting myself get too hungry. Science backs this up; these two factors have a big impact on happiness.

2. Do let the sun go down on anger. I had always scrupulously aired every irritation as soon as possible, to make sure I vented all bad feelings before bedtime. Studies show, however, that the notion of anger catharsis is poppycock. Expressing anger related to minor, fleeting annoyances just amplifies bad feelings, while not expressing anger often allows it to dissipate.

3. Fake it till you feel it. Feelings follow actions. If I’m feeling low, I deliberately act cheery, and I find myself actually feeling happier. If I’m feeling angry at someone, I do something thoughtful for her and my feelings toward her soften. This strategy is uncannily effective.

4. Realize that anything worth doing is worth doing badly. Challenge and novelty are key elements of happiness. The brain is stimulated by surprise, and successfully dealing with an unexpected situation gives a powerful sense of satisfaction. People who do new things―learn a game, travel to unfamiliar places―are happier than people who stick to familiar activities that they already do well. I often remind myself to “Enjoy the fun of failure” and tackle some daunting goal.

5. Don’t treat the blues with a “treat.” Often the things I choose as “treats” aren’t good for me. The pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt and loss of control and other negative consequences deepen the lousiness of the day. While it’s easy to think, I’ll feel good after I have a few glasses of wine…a pint of ice cream…a cigarette…a new pair of jeans, it’s worth pausing to ask whether this will truly make things better.

6. Buy some happiness. Our basic psychological needs include feeling loved, secure, and good at what we do. You also want to have a sense of control. Money doesn’t automatically fill these requirements, but it sure can help. I’ve learned to look for ways to spend money to stay in closer contact with my family and friends; to promote my health; to work more efficiently; to eliminate sources of irritation and marital conflict; to support important causes; and to have enlarging experiences. For example, when my sister got married, I splurged on a better digital camera. It was expensive, but it gave me a lot of happiness.

7. Don’t insist on the best. There are two types of decision makers. Satisficers (yes, satisficers) make a decision once their criteria are met. When they find the hotel or the pasta sauce that has the qualities they want, they’re satisfied. Maximizers want to make the best possible decision. Even if they see a bicycle or a backpack that meets their requirements, they can’t make a decision until they’ve examined every option. Satisficers tend to be happier than maximizers. Maximizers expend more time and energy reaching decisions, and they’re often anxious about their choices. Sometimes good enough is good enough.

8. Exercise to boost energy. I knew, intellectually, that this worked, but how often have I told myself, “I’m just too tired to go to the gym”? Exercise is one of the most dependable mood-boosters. Even a 10-minute walk can brighten my outlook.

9. Stop nagging. I knew my nagging wasn’t working particularly well, but I figured that if I stopped, my husband would never do a thing around the house. Wrong. If anything, more work got done. Plus, I got a surprisingly big happiness boost from quitting nagging. I hadn’t realized how shrewish and angry I had felt as a result of speaking like that. I replaced nagging with the following persuasive tools: wordless hints (for example, leaving a new lightbulb on the counter); using just one word (saying “Milk!” instead of talking on and on); not insisting that something be done on my schedule; and, most effective of all, doing a task myself. Why did I get to set the assignments?

10. Take action. Some people assume happiness is mostly a matter of inborn temperament: You’re born an Eeyore or a Tigger, and that’s that. Although it’s true that genetics play a big role, about 40 percent of your happiness level is within your control. Taking time to reflect, and making conscious steps to make your life happier, really does work. So use these tips to start your own Happiness Project. I promise it won’t take you a whole year.